Divining Humanity

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Deservedness…

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What does each human deserve?
This is a hard question to answer.  In general, of course we can answer the question like this…

As per the United States of American’s Declaration of Independence

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men (people) are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rghts, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness…

Well, that’s it!  Case closed.  Wise people centuries ago already answered the question!

Well… actually it’s not that easy, is it?

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Sense of Equality – FAIRNESS

Last year, I was a governor working in a wealth family.  My job was to take care of a 4 year old boy and teach him English.  Interestingly enough, often when he didn’t want to do something, the follow words would come out of his mouth…
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He would utter such words in many different situations, such as when I told him it was time for a lesson, after two hours or more of playing… or when I asked him to help me clean up his toys.

I eventually agreed with him… I told him that he was correct…

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As I would proceed to explain to him that it wasn’t fair that I made his bed and served his food and that he only had to help me clean up.  Then I would sit down and wait until he felt more motivated to do what he should…

The problem is that most of us humans are greedy.  We inherently want as much benefit for ourselves as possible.  Of course, not everybody behaves this way, but most do.  (We could go off on the tangent of “does altruism really exist,” but I won’t at this time…)

Additionally, humans are psychologically wired to believe that if an individual believes that he or she deserves more then we tend to believe it.

Why It Pays To Be A Jerk

(You can also refer to one book that really changed my thoughts on how the world really works, “The 48 Laws of Power” by Robert Greene)

In my opinion… a cry for FAIRNESS is a cry to have OTHERS behave in such a way, a predictable way, so that I can benefit…

… How often to do see someone say,

“Hey! my salary is TOO high, pay me less…”

“Hey! my husband/wife is TOO good, give me one that is lower level!”

“Hey! this food is too good for this price!  I NEED to pay more!”

“Hey! my boss is too good, give me someone more difficult to work with!”

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Your Worldview

I don’t really believe that people think the world is “fair”.  Unthinkingly, many people will say, “Yes, it is.”  They believe that God or Karma or some Cosmic force will give them what they “deserve“…

And what we deserve is subjective (see the song link above)…

School teacher – professional athlete dilemma – Why is it that those who are very essential to developing members of society, those responsible to giving direction to the people, who will direct the human race, paid relatively little compared to those who primary purpose is to entertain?

How many star athletes complain that different teams didn’t offer them enough money from the steps of their palaces which are their homes?

But, as for me, I no longer think about this “dilemma.”  When you understand “The Laws of Power,” it all makes sense…

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On the other hand…

I do not believe that HUMANS are all powerful.  There is a Cosmic Force that influences what happens on this world (and the universe in general)… I will call this Force – God.  (I almost hate to do so, since God’s name has been dragged through the mud, but humans who want to use God’s name to justify their own ambitions… so maybe Comic Force (CF) is better…)

CF is much beyond human understanding.  We paltry humans can’t even start to comprehend the intricacies of our own little world.  We are so limited in our understanding of causal relationships between our actions and their second or third degree results.

If CF could understand only to the sixteenth level, what is that, like a billion times more than our own comprehensive abilities?  Yet, I believe CF can comprehend even more, at least to the 100th degree…

How could we hope to comprehend how CF thinks?!?!

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Social Constraints

We humans, limit our world to what we can comfortably understand… what we can comfortably accept…

We have created rules of existence in order to determine “appropriate” behavior.  We, however, don’t (usually) do this individually.  We do it societally.  Members of societies are encouraged (coerced) to “following the rules”.  (Even “rebellion” often has “social rules” too… if you don’t believe me, watch teenagers – societies “rebels” they have strong social rules which dictate how they can “rebel” (and be “cool”))

The influence of society and social constraints serve the purpose of creating consistency, stability, and predicability.  It also maintains the “status quo”.

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almost all social environments are hierarchical, and usually the hierarchy is shaped like a pyramid.  This is simply a “truth” of human society (maybe it’s instinctual for us as a species to form hierarchies…).

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And in my understanding, those closest to the top of the pyramid feel less constrained by social rules….

they feel “elite”

… special.

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Yet, they push to conserve the social rules, which conveniently maintain their elite position.  (I remind you of the article above about jerks… jerks only benefit if other “play by the rules” and they don’t…)

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Who / What Is In Control?

Ultimately, I believe that CF is in control, but CF gives humans quite a bit of liberty (on our planet at least) to do as we want…

Yet due to our inherent limitations of our comprehension and understanding, we can’t even come close to understanding how our social systems truly work.  And honestly, I think most of us want to put our heads in the sand and just hope that by “following the rules” we will “get ahead…”

DESERVEDNESS

Deservedness does not really exist.  If it does exist, who can truly say “who deserves what?”  We, humanity, exist in a vast, beyond vast universe that we through the necessity of our limited minds choose to ignore (so in essense in our daily lives we ignore the vast vastness of reality).

To truly understand what each person “deserves” one would need Cosmic Understanding…

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What we call “deservedness” is really a more palatable name for SELF-SERVEDNESS.  Like the child, who cries, “It’s not FAIR!,” we really want to say, why can’t I have (everything) that I want!

And oh… how easy is it to talk ourselves into believing what we

WANT = “Fair”

And let’s be honest… we usually are biased in our assessments.  We most often make comparisions of our current life position with others’ life positions that have gotten “more” but who we perceive to be equally or less “deserving” than ourselves… rarely do we compare the other way.

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HONESTLY

I will be honest.  I DO have a bias and I want “A Little Bit More”…  It does irk me, when I don’t feel financially secure, when I feel like I am a competent professional and some “yahoo” is getting paid up the wazoo because he or she happens to be in good with someone of wealth…

And yes, I also know that their are people just as qualified or more qualified (and maybe even talented) than me, who are scraping by just to put food in their mouths.

(and their is the athlete, who gets paid millions to kick a ball around too! And children born with a silver spoon in their mouths…)

Life is NOT Fair… At least not according to human comprehension… (I believe that it is to CF’s comprehension, but we can’t hope to understand CF’s comprehension…)

So in many ways, I will take what I can get

On a side note, many people might call that outlook “greedy’ in the context of money… but not so many in the context of relationships…

How many people would disappove of someone saying that they want the best man/woman they can get…?

(This would be an interesting topic to explore 🙂 )

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THE SELF And CREATING VALUE

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A Person’s Value DOES NOT Come From His/Her ACCOMPLISHMENTS

Women are actually experts at detecting this, especially in men.  They can understand how a man feels about himself, regardless of how much he has or has not accomplished…

But think about it… who really wants a “success” person, who feels horrible about himself / herself?  Such people are miserable and are miserable to be around.

Really, we need to stop thinking that we need to “earn” value.  Value comes when a person has a deep sense of being “right” with himself / herself, with the universe (or God, if you will).

Value based on “success” is fickle.  As long as a person feels “successful” he or she feels valuable.  But my experience has taught me, that feeling “successful” all too quickly wears off.  And soon, I’ve found myself having the need to again “prove” my ability to be “successful.”

Intrinsic value is Powerful.  Circumstances cannot destroy it.

And Granted – People who feel intrinsically valuable often are successful… but even when they are no longer feeling the effects of a recent success, their feelings of value are unaltered.

In fact, even in the worst conditions, they STILL feel valuable.

Because their Strength come from WITHIN and not from Without.