Divining Humanity

Seek The Essense Of Humanity


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THE SELF And CREATING VALUE

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A Person’s Value DOES NOT Come From His/Her ACCOMPLISHMENTS

Women are actually experts at detecting this, especially in men.  They can understand how a man feels about himself, regardless of how much he has or has not accomplished…

But think about it… who really wants a “success” person, who feels horrible about himself / herself?  Such people are miserable and are miserable to be around.

Really, we need to stop thinking that we need to “earn” value.  Value comes when a person has a deep sense of being “right” with himself / herself, with the universe (or God, if you will).

Value based on “success” is fickle.  As long as a person feels “successful” he or she feels valuable.  But my experience has taught me, that feeling “successful” all too quickly wears off.  And soon, I’ve found myself having the need to again “prove” my ability to be “successful.”

Intrinsic value is Powerful.  Circumstances cannot destroy it.

And Granted – People who feel intrinsically valuable often are successful… but even when they are no longer feeling the effects of a recent success, their feelings of value are unaltered.

In fact, even in the worst conditions, they STILL feel valuable.

Because their Strength come from WITHIN and not from Without.


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BEING THE “BEST” – Is BUNK!

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Rising out of the Crucible of Competition… Throw everyone into the fire and we will end up with “only the ‘Best'”…

Somehow or another the world has “regressed” to the belief that “being the ‘Best'” is what is necessary for getting a sense of achievement.

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Or another way of putting it, we live our lives to competiting with each other as if when we finally “earn the Crown of ‘BEST’, we will have feel fulfilled and have unquestioning universal admiration…

But let’s think about it… does it make sense?

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  • Only a FOOL believes that those declared the BEST really ARE the BEST…

These people maybe be good, certainly they excel… but the probability that the absolute BEST person in any field of knowledge of the 7 billion + people on the planet… actually has been found.

Maybe the Better person, or more accurately the BEST person,  doesn’t have the chance to show, to be involved in this field, to develop his or her skills because other things are more pressing.

Example: The best sportsperson, might have to worry about supporting his or her family.  The best artist, might not have someone to promote him or her…

  • Recognition as the BEST is more important that BEING the BEST.

Very few people will actively look for people, who will be declared better.

Imagine a woman, who is declared the most attractive person in the world saying…

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“Wait!  I want to be 100% sure, I’m the most beautiful!  Please search every corner of the world and see if you can find women more beautiful than I!”

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So…

  • The “BEST” is mostly like not actually the BEST

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  • Our Ego won’t allow other to “dethrone” us once we are declared the best… (assuming, of course, it within our power to forestall them)

So…

In essense, we actually do not and can never be 100% certain that we can know…

Who Is The Best…

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THEREFORE

  • Seeking the BEST and to be the BEST is an exercise in futility…

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Let’s be honest… The problem is not whether or not, “I Am The Best…”

The problem is Ego.  We want to be crowned “BEST,” because secretly we are afraid that we are NOT.

We think that if others unequivocally recognize us as “the BEST,” we can finally convince ourselves unequivocally that we are (good capable people)…

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NOW

I don’t want to “throw the baby out with the bath water…”
I am not saying the standards and evaluation is bad…

but what I am saying is –

  • Compete with YOURSELF (As opposed to others)

Be better than YOU were before and Don’t Worry About What Others Think Of You.

Obiviously all 7 billion + of us cannot possibly be “The ‘BEST'”… but we can “crown” ourselves for being more true to ourselves by…

Finding Out – “What Makes ME Happy?”

And Focus On

improving those areas of your life that make YOU feel like you are doing things that Better YOU!