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Drowning – The Trap of Being A Genius

I “love” the stereotypes – sic… 

– “They think they are so much better than us!”

– “They love ‘bragging’ about how smart they are!”

– “They…”
Well, you know what… Maybe we don’t!!!  Maybe we wish that there would not be mountains of literature about “how anyone could be a genius.” Or about “different” types of genius… Or, or,…
Can you imagine the IMMENSE Pressure we feel to be “just like everyone else”!?!?

The world wants to ‘water us down’.  You want at every chance to deny our existence!  

So many of us just want to be seen as “normal”.  We remember what it was like in early childhood as adults smiled and marveled at our ingenuity… only to be replaced by disdain and denial of our talents in adulthood. 

Many of us, like me, only want to use our insights to help others see.  But over and over you make us feel guilty and distraught, when offer up our suggestions for a better way or better world, so that you can talk about office gossip or the most recent sporting event, or your “success” in your hobby.
Society loves “diversity” but only if that restricted within one standard deviation of the mean!!!
WE have to learn how to communicate in a manner COMFORTABLE for you.  Why do you persist in demeaning us?!?! 

Are we not Human too!  And even if we “minic” the steps that YOU define as success (We become athletes, arts, competent professionals), still you don’t respect us enough to…

Listen to our voices in our own tones

Or at least grant us a measure of solace by acknowledging that we exist without making us feel GUILTY that we do! (Trust me, we live with enough self-doubt as it is, we definitely don’t need others to heap it more on us!)
Oh… since early childhood, I’ve yearned for a community of peers that wouldn’t make me feel like a FREAK!  Especially when my strongest desire has been to make things better…

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“DifFeRenT” – The Irony of Unstanding Multiple Viewpoints except “normal”…

I can say this… pretty much as am absolute truth.

  1. I accept myself.
  2. The world does not except me.  (You really don’t understand me.  It’s true.)

 

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Since the time I was a little boy, recall what many might consider – Schizophrenia.  In actually it’s similar I suppose, but it’s not Schizophrenia.  I just assume most people don’t experience this… because it haven’t observed signs of the majority of others having similar experiences.

Anyways, sometimes it seems that my “brain” thinks on it’s own.  I remember times in math class when given rather complex equations and before I registered the math problem in my conscious mind, a near estimate had been presented for pickup…

My whole life, I have often “just know” the answers to cognitive problems, only then to have my sluggish consciousness have to do the “laborious” computations.

And then when I start to come up with a plan… there is that exhilarating rush of my mind sprinting “off to the races!”

And the times when my thoughts move so fast that it’s impossible to do verbal expression of them simultaeously.  I would have to be able to speak 3 or 4 times faster than humanly possible!

Then… there are the times when I feel my brain trying to rearrange and reestabilish coherent correlations between large amounts of data from various sources, subjects, events, etc. in order to establish a more complete understand or correct a misconception…

 

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THIS is my “normal”, which I a reasonably high level of certainty that most people have no way of coming close to relating to…

It’s a bittersweet “normal”.  It’s me.  (well… at least this “brain” lives inside my head… therefore most would assume that it’s an innate part of me… yet if sometimes feels separate…)

And it’s not FAIR!!! I probably can understand you. (If you were honest and open enough to let me try.)

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And your (simplistic) response – “Stop thinking so much.”

I might as well respond – “Stop breathing!!!!”


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Humans – We Are More Emotional Than Logical Creatures… And Yet

There is a prevalent paradox in our existence…

For some reason we have this NEED to appear “rational,” yet many of our beliefs are emotionally based.

We think “how silly” when we look at some of the misguided (unscientific) beliefs of our ancient ancestors, but if you think about it – are most of us “superior” to them?

Most of our ancestors, believed that which they were told by others, unquestionably.  They unquestionably accepted the opinions of the people they admired and the “experts.”  (And ironically, often those opinions proved to be wrong…)

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I submit, these questions:

  • Have we changed?
  • Do we now, in this point in history, individually, question the “common knowledge” handed down and conveyed by others?

I think not…

I think, we too often place a veneer of logical to try to validate our emotional beliefs…

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Because… if we never “reason out” our own beliefs about the world… how can they not be anything but beliefs grounded in emotion?


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Permanently Changing Your Way Of BEING Is Extremely Hard!

It IS possible to change, “who you are…”

BUT I takes an ENORMOUS amount of work!

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Currently, I’m trying to regain my “take me as I am,” attitude I used to have, while upgrading my social awareness.

(in essence, I’ve always wanted to become better and better at social awareness, but I believe until recently I had been unaware of vital information to allow me to do so…)

I’m convinced that there are two sets of “rules”…

  •  The rules we are told and taught…
  • The rules that actually are applicable to society

Over the past month or so, I’ve been studying to learn about the latter set of rules…

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Unfortunately, Ihave found, that knowledge of these rules is not enough.

Even a thorough understanding is ineffective…

What is needed is the application of these rules, in my everyday living!

AND It’s very difficult to change the way that I’ve been acting and change the way that I’ve been thinking…

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BUT I must keep my eyes on the prize!

I want a HAPPY ENDING 😀

I keep reminding myself about this goal and I try to move closer to learning how to create the most enriching social relationships possible, the ones that I’ve always dreamed about, and finding as much joy in living as possible!

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It’s a difficult path. Change ALWAYS Is.  There are some impediments.

  • Natural resistance to change (even if we don’t get the results we want there is a strong tendency (inertia) to continue doing what we have always done…)
  • Self-doubt (Real change is often a solitary process – the vast majority of people don’t want to put in the huge but necessary investment needed to change the way the they think… But even the ones who start down the path of change face discouragement soon after some of the “fruits of their labor” start to be evident in their lives.)

Doubt is very strong! When start to recognize the signs that something different is happening (we are (finally) receiving different results).  There are “voices” in our heads telling us that the “changes” we have seen in our life are simply

    • Illusions
    • Anomalies
    • A result of random chance (not behavior change)

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I guess what I want to tell everyone, is that WE ALL Can Be Better!

But You Need To Really, Really, Really Want It – You Got To FIGHT For It!

(You Might Require Guidance – In The Form Of Real Straight-Talk)

And You Need To Play Up The Littlest Perceived Results In Your Mind…

because DOUBT WILL INEVITABLY creep in!


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THE PATH To Freedom And Inner Peace

The HARDEST lesson to learn is that the world won’t change for you!

The hardest LESSON to learn is that the world won’t change for you!

The hardest lesson to LEARN is that the world won’t change for you!

The hardest lesson to learn is that the WORLD won’t change for you!

The hardest lesson to learn is that the world WON’T CHANGE for you!

The hardest lesson to learn is that the world won’t change FOR YOU!

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The Boy And The Viper

There was once a young boy.  He was a normal boy, curious, playful, optimistic.  One day when he was playing, he happened upon a viper.  He had never seen a snake before in his life, so curiously he approached.  He walked up to the snake as non-threateningly as possible, palm open fingers wide to show his friendly intent.

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But suddenly the viper shot towards his hand and protruded it’s fangs and bit deeply into the boy’s hand…

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In this story, you really cannot fault the boy.  He is inexperienced; he doesn’t see the danger that the viper represents.

But how many of us (By “us” I include myself), make similar mistakes in our daily lives.  Yet, we should really know better!  Sometimes I think we take the “Golden Rule” too far.  (“Do to others as you want them to do to you.”)  And actually it’s because we are too egocentric.  We think to ourselves, what would I do, if someone did this to me.

We make a mistakes of Making Ourselves Innocent.  And just like the boy, we reach out a curious friendly hand, but are Shocked when the viper bites.

Just think about it.  Think about what other people do to make you upset.  They lie and say things you don’t like… they do things that you don’t like.

BUT how often to we ACTUALLY look at other people and evaluate THEIR Nature?  How often do we look at someone else and see if they have an aggressive, greedy, or dangerous nature?
I think the problem is too often we see others as “just like me,” and not for who they really are.

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Now when a viper bites, should we really harbor resentment against the viper.  Vipers naturally don’t trust humans.  They see us as a threat.  The bite the viper gave the boy… wasn’t personal… it was just instinct!

But too often we treat others who “harm” us in life like this.  We think that it’s personal…

“He did that to hurt me!!!”

Then we leave the situation poisoned by bitterness, anger, hurt, which sometimes festers and becomes hatred.

And how often do we make the foolish mistake of reaching out to the viper again, only to allow it to increase on the harm already done?

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I don’t want to seem to advocate never being nice to anyone, but only to not expect others to react just like you.  If it’s in your nature to be kind and give to others, do it… but only a little bit and see the reaction.

Maybe if the boy got outside of himself and his own feelings, he might see the telltale signs of inherent danger in the viper’s behavior as he stepped towards the snake.

Then he might have adverted the bite and wouldn’t have been harmed in any way…


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Charity – Source Is Important

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Imagine a situation in which a person gave you $5,000,000 USD.

Would you feel different if the person was a very rich person (for example Bill Gates) than if it was a close friend of yours (who maybe won the lottery?

If the giver of the money matters, this reflect the complexity of human beings…

The same action done under different conditions leads to different feelings and responses.