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Permanently Changing Your Way Of BEING Is Extremely Hard!

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It IS possible to change, “who you are…”

BUT I takes an ENORMOUS amount of work!

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Currently, I’m trying to regain my “take me as I am,” attitude I used to have, while upgrading my social awareness.

(in essence, I’ve always wanted to become better and better at social awareness, but I believe until recently I had been unaware of vital information to allow me to do so…)

I’m convinced that there are two sets of “rules”…

  •  The rules we are told and taught…
  • The rules that actually are applicable to society

Over the past month or so, I’ve been studying to learn about the latter set of rules…

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Unfortunately, Ihave found, that knowledge of these rules is not enough.

Even a thorough understanding is ineffective…

What is needed is the application of these rules, in my everyday living!

AND It’s very difficult to change the way that I’ve been acting and change the way that I’ve been thinking…

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BUT I must keep my eyes on the prize!

I want a HAPPY ENDING 😀

I keep reminding myself about this goal and I try to move closer to learning how to create the most enriching social relationships possible, the ones that I’ve always dreamed about, and finding as much joy in living as possible!

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It’s a difficult path. Change ALWAYS Is.  There are some impediments.

  • Natural resistance to change (even if we don’t get the results we want there is a strong tendency (inertia) to continue doing what we have always done…)
  • Self-doubt (Real change is often a solitary process – the vast majority of people don’t want to put in the huge but necessary investment needed to change the way the they think… But even the ones who start down the path of change face discouragement soon after some of the “fruits of their labor” start to be evident in their lives.)

Doubt is very strong! When start to recognize the signs that something different is happening (we are (finally) receiving different results).  There are “voices” in our heads telling us that the “changes” we have seen in our life are simply

    • Illusions
    • Anomalies
    • A result of random chance (not behavior change)

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I guess what I want to tell everyone, is that WE ALL Can Be Better!

But You Need To Really, Really, Really Want It – You Got To FIGHT For It!

(You Might Require Guidance – In The Form Of Real Straight-Talk)

And You Need To Play Up The Littlest Perceived Results In Your Mind…

because DOUBT WILL INEVITABLY creep in!

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2 thoughts on “Permanently Changing Your Way Of BEING Is Extremely Hard!

  1. There’s a cure for doubt. It’s called “success”.

    Success comes about after trying enough and making improvements between attempts.

    Inertia is curable with the First Step, but the individual must decide to take that First Step to overcome inertia.

    • Actually, I would argue against success as a cure. We both have been successful in our lives in many things, yet I know that I, for one, and I suspect you too, still struggle with feelings of inadequacy.

      I’ve found in my life, with each “success” comes the fear than next time, I might not rise up to the challenge. I think doubt is a constant in life, but success can make it a weaker factor.

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